Dear Future Hubby: Prayer letters to my future Husband.

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I pray that when you get this letter, you would have a full understanding of how goofy yet AWKWARD I really am.

Anywho! If you are reading the letter that means you my friend, have done the impossible. You have broken through my heart, and promised to never let it go. You have seen me at my worst and at my best. You have become annoyed with me on several occasions, and then have remembered how much you love me and why God put us together as the a hubby and wife team. Simply you’re all that.

If you’re reading this letter then you would have possibly seen me at my 265 pound body and loved every inch and curve, and have pushed me to get to a healthier weight of a 175 pounds. Your love for me at my struggle weight makes me love you more and more at my goal weight. Thank you babe for seeing past my struggle and walking with me towards my future health goals. If I haven’t lost the 90 pounds, then don’t give up on me yet. I am known to be a fighter and what doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger.

If you are reading this letter then you know my love for music, theater, movies with meaning, and my passion for the African American community. You are fully aware of my love for R&B, Jazz, Old Skool and Christian Hip Hop, Gospel and Classical music. You know that I love movies like The Great Debaters, Bend it Like Beckham and countless other movies and probably get annoyed at the fact that I can recite almost every line. You have grown to love my singing out loud in the car, making people laugh, and my impersonations of famous people and my late grandmother. You don’t think I am overreacting with my views, opinions, and actions on the disparities that are  crippling the African American and low income minority communities. Even if it’s not your passion, you support my vision plans and pushes me towards my completion goals.

If you are reading the letter you love me even with my battle with depression. You think I am strong even when I feel weak. You’re a leader and have encouraged me to know that I am worthy even when I feel worthless. You pray with me and for me, never taunting me, or getting frustrated when I feel non-pretty or like life is a blur. Instead, you kiss me softly and gently, reassuring me of my God given beauty, talents, and gifts. You’re patient and kind with me and I love it.

If you are reading this letter you know that I am an night owl. You know that I am not a neat freak and can be a little messy but the spirit of Martha Stewart comes alive in me with the right music while cleaning the house. You know that I can cook good ol soul food, or make yummy stir fry and you warn me about portions and starchy foods. You know that I love to over analyze everything and will kindly redirect me back to the road of making logical and sound choices. You will love me when I am having an ADD moment, and will help me grow in areas of forgetfulness and budgeting money.

If you are reading this letter you will know that I said yes to you because of your heart. You made up in your mind that I was special and beautiful, and someone you wanted to pursue. You have a heart for God and His people without restrictions, and you yearn to serve God in whatever ministry he sees fit for you. You are full of integrity and you make wise choices that will be spiritually good and healthy for our family. You are able to handle my family, even if they make you uncomfortable, you don’t judge them and manage to make them feel loved and appreciated. You accept my flaws and allow me to see yours so that we could grow together as husband and wife. You pray and read the Bible with me, creating a routine of discipleship and teaching to be transferred between the both of us. You support all of my dreams (even the crazy ones) and you’re my biggest cheerleader. You’re trustworthy and full of Godly wisdom. You protect my purity by honoring my body all the way to the marriage bed and beyond. You have all of the qualifications of being an amazing husband and father to our future children but most of all an amazing leader in Jesus Christ.

If you are reading this letter, know that faith and unconditional love brought us together. That God himself showed me that you were what I needed. That love will get us through the storms and attacks from the Enemy. You’re my partner in the battle against world and it’s standards. If you’re reading this, know that I love you through my awkwardness and my insecurities, and pain. If you’re reading this, know that my yes came with a heart willing to submit to you and to God for always until our eternal resting place.

With Unconditional Love,

Lakeyia B

 

 

 

 

 

Mother Who? Giving Mother Nature the Kanye Shrug.

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Who is “Mother Nature”?

To me, she is the woman who comes around every 28 days, and reminds me why chocolate was invented along with irritating cramps.

To some, she is the one who birthed the world and chooses to cause natural disasters whenever she fancies.

Algonquian legend believe that “beneath the clouds lives the Earth-Mother from whom is derived the Water of Life, who at her bosom feeds plants, animals and human”.

Truth is this: Mother Nature is mythical.

She is nether the creator of the universe nor does she derive the Water of Life.

The Bible clearly indicates who is the life giver. Check this out:

John 4: 14-15

but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water, so that I will not be thirsty or have to come here to draw water.” 

Revelation 22:17 

The Spirit and the Bride say, “Come.” And let the one who hears say, “Come.” And let the one who is thirsty come; let the one who desires take the water of life without price.

My people, my people:

Don’t be decieved by the world’s dogma. Earth was not created by a woman. As much as I love my sistah’s and believe in the advancement of my fellow woman, I won’t sit back and let men be dragged through the mud by extreme feminist ideology. My thought on Mother Nature has me asking the question of who is the Father? Cleary there has to be masculinty somewhere. Even the woman at the well understood that Jesus is the true giver of life. We cannot start life without a man and woman coming together. This idea of a woman not needing a man to do “x, y, and z”, is foolery from the Devil.  Yes ladies, cherish and honor the blessing of being a woman but realize that we are still daughters of the true Creator, ABBA (Almighty Father). Yes we can learn how to fix a car, become doctors, lawyers, and yes we deserve equal paying wages (AMEN?), but don’t let the pride of being a woman create the illusion of us either becoming manly, or taking away God’s purpose of a woman.

Sorry Mother Nature, but you get a Kanye Shrug.

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It’s been real.

-Keyia

Kim Davis: The Law of the Land vs God’s Law

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If you have not heard, there is a woman who was thrown in prison for speaking out against gay rights and not issuing a marriage license to a same sex couple.

Kim Davis of Rowen County in Kentucky has been held in contentment this past week, for refusing to issue a marriage license to same sex couples. Davis argues that he refusal to approve same sex marriage license was her way of upholding God’s law. Davis, who is a Christian, stood her ground and was thrown in jail for what she believed in. But was her protest fair? Godly? and did her refusal to sign on a marriage license an act of imputable courage?

In June of 2015, the Supreme Court Justice of the United State ruled that people in same sex relationships have the same rights to marry as people in heterosexual relationships. What this plainly means is that Adam and Steve can be husband and husband in the eyes of our country. But what about God? Let’s see what he has to say about it.

Romans 1:26-27 (KJV)

For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. 

Now there are about 4 or 5 more scriptures that speak out against homosexuality, however I always like to go for the new testament for folks who argue that the old testament is not valid or should not be taken literal. With this being said, my christian friends are probably nodding their heads in agreement (as they read) and are saying to themselves:

“Yasss Kee, you let em know hunty”

“We need more Kim Davis type people”

“She did the right thing, stand for God’s truth”

“Yassss Jesus Yasss”

Let me stop you real quick: I don’t fully agree with Kim Davis’s choices. Let me tell you why.

1st: I agree with God’s Word 100%. So let’s clear the air. In God’s eyes, marriage is between Hubby and Wifey. Like it or leave it. I ain’t scared of nobody but Jesus.

2nd: Though I agree with the Word, I don’t agree with Kim Davis and the way she handle the situation. My reasoning is because, Kim Davis could have let the same sex couple know that she stands with God’s law by speaking her heart, stepping aside, and letting some other clerk sign off. If she was the only person who could do it, then quit. That couple would have to wait until they replace her or go somewhere else.

Now some of my fellow saints may think I am crazy or wrong but hear me out. I want to share some scripture.

Mark 12: 14-17

“Teacher,” they said, “we know how honest you are. You are impartial and don’t play favorites. You teach the way of God truthfully. Now tell us—is it right to pay taxes to Caesar or not? Should we pay them, or shouldn’t we?”

Jesus saw through their hypocrisy and said, “Why are you trying to trap me? Show me a Roman coin,c and I’ll tell you.”When they handed it to him, he asked, “Whose picture and title are stamped on it?”

“Caesar’s,” they replied.

“Well, then,” Jesus said, “give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar, and give to God what belongs to God.”His reply completely amazed them.

Now I know this is talking about taxes but hear a sistah out. Jesus told them to give what belongs to Caesar and God. I could be wrong, and you all can be sure to correct me, but this is where we separate church and state. Clearly taxes have to be paid rather I agree with the amount or with the government. Uncle Sams is not trying to hear me say it goes against my religion or I had to pay tithes and didn’t have enough to pay you. We either do it or face the penalty. This goes for other laws too. We who really follow Jesus, know what is at stake. Kim Davis knew in June what would happen to her today. I commend her for wanting to uphold God’s true Word but I don’t agree with her actions for it.

My future profession as a Marriage Family Therapist will allow me to have my own PRIVATE Practice. This mean that if I please to do so, I can turn away same sex couples. I can set my own price, hours, rules, etc. I have that freedom because it is my practice and dime at stake. Kim Davis works under the government and has the choice of either quitting, following the rules, or letting someone else sign on the dotted line. Either way, she made her choice and she is under the consequences. Simple as that. Lastly, I ask “What would you do?”

It’s been real.

Keyia

The Wedding, The Bride, The Groom, and God’s unconditional love.

As I sat in the church pew and I saw the groom come in, I could only imagine the feeling of Joy that he have in his heart as he waited for his bride. The bridesmaids and groomsmen walked in as of they were floating and finally the doors were closed and we all knew it was time for the bride to make her entrance. As my dear friend stood at the alter and my dear friend floated down to her groom, my heart swelled and I could not help but smiling so hard that my cheeks started hurting. The wedding was beautiful. It was intimate, simple, and most of all centered around Jesus. I mean we even took communion. Then the reception was an awesome affair of finger foods, dancing, and sweet tea. I even danced with the bride and groom. The bride and groom… 

Something popped into my head today. God’s love for us is like a Man’s love for his wife. the wedding is the celebration and invitation in sharing the joy of salvation and the groom marrying his bride, the church. God does not require us to come perfectly to him, he will provide the white dress of pure and righteousness . Just think of the vows that a man and wife give to each other on their wedding day. To have and to hold, for rich or poor, sick or healthy, forsaken all others.The same way a man makes a covenant with his wife is the same one we make with Jesus. Just think of when Jesus when to that cross for us. He was sick, he was poor and I know in His human form he wished he had some one to hold and he had forsaken the deal the Devil tried to give to him and still went to the cross for a world that did and was going to hate and mock him. Do you understand we are his brides? He is our groom? What does that look like? 

I’ll tell you. 1 Corin 13. Jesus Love helps us endure all things. people kill over love yet Christ died to give life for love. Everything we do should be made in love. I like to think of the reception as a celebration in Heaven that is soon to come. Once our groom comes to steal us away from the trappings of this world, we will celebrate, dance, eat with and embrace our Savior, Hero, king. 

Quick note. Ladies wait on the Lord. Today taught  me to embrace the Husband of my spirit first then my earthly husband will come. I know its hard, its difficult, but God is able, he is truth, and he is just that amazing to bless you with your spirit-mate.  In the meantime, Ill dance at the spiritual reception, taking in spiritual food, and loving the lover of my soul. I urge you to do so too. God bless

Contentment in God

All around me is romance. Movies, shows, conversations from the other people, display of affection and intimacy. Sometimes I sigh and think of being single. It can feel like being on of those kids in 2nd grade without the Lisa Frank folders and pencils. Everyone has one it seems, except you. I didn’t get Lisa Frank stuff till third grade and after a few months of having it, I was bored or didn’t really pay any attention to it. Now I know being in a relationship is different, and you really can’t “not pay attention” to the guy/girl you are with but the rush is the same. In the beginning, everything is lovely! Late night talks on the phone, dates, hanging on their every word and then months past and the same rush is no longer there. Your favorite restaurant becomes boring or the norm, conversation gets dull, etc. 

We have become consumed in the emotions and feelings of romance that it can become stressful. We ask ourselves questions like “Why haven’t he/she called?” “Where are they?” “What are they doing?” and we become consumed with them. We end up losing a piece of ourselves.We end up not in contentment, especially singles because we crave that feeling of a touch and rush. 

I have a solution, as a matter of fact, God has the solution. Contentment in Him brings peace and joy in ways that any man or woman can bring. This is why God wants us to seek Him 1st and his Kingdom and Righteousness and all other THINGS will be added to you. That part “Things” being added means God needs to be able to know that you trust and want HIM with all your heart, not just when it’s convenient .

Think about it this way. You spend your time consuming your self for the love, approval, and honor of someone. They only consume themselves half the time with even thought of you. Who is lacking here? You or them? What happens when they only give you 10% of what you have been craving? You become depressed, sad, feeling unwanted, and unloved. You are left  not content. 

Now think about putting that same energy in loving and serving God. What are your results? How does God make you FEEL? Trust me, You will feel in peace, wanted, loved and content because you never had to fight for God’s love. It’s been there all along. 

So stay content in God. Fall madly in love with Him for the purpose that Christ went to the Cross for you. As you fall deeper in love with Christ, watch as he transform you. Then in His timing, He will send you the one that has been content in Him and praying and waiting just for you. 

Going Back To That Hidden Place

Ever lived in a house with 15 other people? How about both guys and girls? One shower to share with 12 other girls can be nerve wrecking but even more than that can be finding a place to hide away. Now if you are a person who craves and seek attention, this would be the perfect place to throw a pity party, become the life of a party or simply live off of everyone look at you. I know the feeling of wanting people to notice you. From dating to just friendship, we crave to be appreciated by someone. Right now at this very moment I am living in Christian community with 15 other guys and girls. (I know what the Duggers must be feeling) One minute I craved attention, next I hated it. For the past two weeks God has been teaching me lesson after lesson of being hidden and for the past two days I finally have gotten the curriculum!

I believe God is calling a lot of people to go back to that “hidden” place. What hidden place am I talking about? The place where it’s just you and God, where He can mold you and shape you into you purpose. Our hidden place is where we hear God the most and crave Him the most. There are no distractions, no interruptions, and it’s where we can be most transparent with God about our fears, our struggles, our hopes and our dreams without anyone altering our minds.

When Christian expose themselves to much without God’s covering, we become open to the Worlds attacks, the Devil’s tricks, and our flesh start to grow like weeds in an un-kept garden!

It’s time for us to go back to that hidden place. God created Adam in a garden and when I think of that creation, I think of God crafting him in secret, waiting for the perfect time to expose Him to the beauty of this world. Think of Daniel! He fasted for 21 days. Fasting is suppose to be a hidden thing. Matthew 6:16 states “And when you fast, don’t make it obvious, as the hypocrites do, for they try to look miserable and disheveled so people will admire them for their fasting. I tell you the truth, that is the only reward they will ever get.” In the hidden place we find the most joy, peace, and growth. The less interruption, the better

So ask yourself this week. “Have I went to that hidden place to worship God? Am I exposing myself to much? Who’s attention do I really crave? God or Peoples? What is God trying to tell me?”

For His Glory

So this has been a rough week in a sense. There have been so many emotional changes and changes in general that I have had to face and I am currently facing. The worst part about all of these changes is that wanting to vent and wanting that support, however sometimes a person feels all alone in their quest of change and maturity. Do you feel like this? Well if so you are not alone, in fact I am facing the same thing. I’ve been there and I am there. There is so much I feel like I am losing yet there are hidden things that I am gaining as well. Take college for instance. I am in my fifth year of college and the excitement is getting a tad bit old if you know what I mean. I used to love the start of a new semester and new activities, the feeling of moving into the residence halls, seeing old friends, etc. It’s like you get to live a whole new life in a sense because a lot of things change while you are in college, especially if you are me. 

College for me has become like a workout session. It feels good and it does good for your maturity but if you are obese in struggles then achieving certain goals seems like a billion miles away. (Funny thing, I am in the obese physically category as well) Locking down onto a major and sticking with it, didn’t quite stick with me to say the least. I constantly became passionate about one subject then shifted my thought processes to another. Then I had the ” I think God said” confusion thing.  I thought God said law school. #Fail! I thought God said Psychologist #Fail! I thought God said teacher. Well not really a fail here because that option still might be possible but my point is this.  Whatever it is that is holding you back, remember Romans 8:28. Everything works out for our GOOD! Everything! Even the changing majors five or six times (like me). Transferring to three different college ( like me) or not being able to pass simple mathematics ( like me), all of it can seem like obese struggles, but know that God is the drill sergeant to get you back into shape. If you allow him to he will put you through spiritual boot-camp, so that you can fight off the negative “I can’t do it, Im not smart enough, etc” enemy that is devouring you mind. Everything in life is for His Glory. His own Son’s death was for His Glory. God had to show us that he is God and that he has the ultimate plan even when things get confusing or foggy. Jesus hung on that cross because he knew that in order for us to have true salvation someone perfect and without blemish nor fear would need to die a fearful death! So I encourage you no matter what, to keep running, and lose the obese struggle because God works everything out so it can be a testament of His Glory! 

Love and Peace,

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